Have you ever complained that you can’t get a date because you’re just such a Nice Guy?

If so, you really need to read this article.

No, I mean it. Go read it now. Because this is so freaking true:

“Too many men use their niceness as a cover for the fact that they’re in fact insecure. It’s this lack of confidence and swagger that kills their chances with the ladies, not their well-mannered ways. Men often set up a false dichotomy. You can either be an arrogant jack ass or a demure nice guy. But there is a middle a ground, the combination women are truly looking for: the extremely confident gentlemen.”

Now, when doing the online dating thing, a girl can’t necessarily tell if you are confident just from your profile. But a lot of guys make it really easy to tell that they aren’t confident. Here’s a hint: If you find yourself saying things like “I never have any luck with women” on your profile, you’re probably sending the wrong message.

Of course, if you really are totally insecure, I’d recommend not dating until you’ve figured out some things to like about yourself. Nobody’s gonna love you if you don’t love yourself first.